Good afternoon. I have had a long and tiring night. Between Karate Kid and a snoring partner, a girl can't get much sleep. But hey, it is Women's Day today. Brilliant! Another day which 'celebrates' awareness that women need a day to be celebrated. Really?! I mean, just what is so happy about it? Is it that we are still struggling to be 'equal' to men, or we are still asking for our rights? Well, lets not get too ideological about it. Remember, I have had a long night. However, this morning, as I was getting ready for work, my husband made an observation- "You demand too much." He meant it as a joke, but I definitely don't deny it. I do demand a lot- from everything and everyone.
When I was younger (notice the 'er'), I learnt a few lessons in life. As a youngster, I wasn't demanding at all. I was 'nice'. I didn't ask for anything. If my mom asked me , "What would you like for dinner?", my reply was generally, Oh! anything." If my employer or client asked to work late, "No Problem." Sure it happens, Sometimes. And thankfully, Mom's a brilliant cook. And in the end, I did pretty well in my career. But the oh-it-is-okay attitude always socked me right back in the eye. If I just expected it, then may be, just may be, I would get it. And if I didn't demand it, then well.. you know- It is utterly out of the question!!
There comes a time in every woman's life, where she has to turn around and ask, "Well, what about me?"- That question, my friends, changes the whole game. After a few kicks in life, I decided to ask it, at every stage in my life. What about me? Does this help me? Do I deserve this? Do I really need to stand for this? Do I really have to? I started caring for myself - first. Then, the rest of the world. Yes, it is selfish. But it's not like I'm stealing candy from a kid's mouth. Nothing will fall into you lap, just because you are nice. It is good to be nice. You feel good about yourself- but only just until, someone not-so-nice gets away with crimes they don't go to prison for. Or gets something, which may be a 'nice' person deserved.
The golden rule of my life has changed, as I'm stepping closer to my 30th birthday- Be nice, be good- so you stay deserving for all the good things. But want more, demand more, Get more. And fight for it- if it is really important for you. It works. And I guess, that's what Women's Day is about. This isn't just about spa days, chocolates, flowers and cards. It is about our rights- which we weren't demanding, but now we are. If you consider yourself equal, don't ask for equality or your rights. Take it. A fight- which we have only just begun. And there is still a long way to go. But we definitely deserve to win.
Happy Women's Day!
When I was younger (notice the 'er'), I learnt a few lessons in life. As a youngster, I wasn't demanding at all. I was 'nice'. I didn't ask for anything. If my mom asked me , "What would you like for dinner?", my reply was generally, Oh! anything." If my employer or client asked to work late, "No Problem." Sure it happens, Sometimes. And thankfully, Mom's a brilliant cook. And in the end, I did pretty well in my career. But the oh-it-is-okay attitude always socked me right back in the eye. If I just expected it, then may be, just may be, I would get it. And if I didn't demand it, then well.. you know- It is utterly out of the question!!
There comes a time in every woman's life, where she has to turn around and ask, "Well, what about me?"- That question, my friends, changes the whole game. After a few kicks in life, I decided to ask it, at every stage in my life. What about me? Does this help me? Do I deserve this? Do I really need to stand for this? Do I really have to? I started caring for myself - first. Then, the rest of the world. Yes, it is selfish. But it's not like I'm stealing candy from a kid's mouth. Nothing will fall into you lap, just because you are nice. It is good to be nice. You feel good about yourself- but only just until, someone not-so-nice gets away with crimes they don't go to prison for. Or gets something, which may be a 'nice' person deserved.
The golden rule of my life has changed, as I'm stepping closer to my 30th birthday- Be nice, be good- so you stay deserving for all the good things. But want more, demand more, Get more. And fight for it- if it is really important for you. It works. And I guess, that's what Women's Day is about. This isn't just about spa days, chocolates, flowers and cards. It is about our rights- which we weren't demanding, but now we are. If you consider yourself equal, don't ask for equality or your rights. Take it. A fight- which we have only just begun. And there is still a long way to go. But we definitely deserve to win.
Happy Women's Day!
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